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The Quiet Revolution of Love by Tom Fox

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Tom Fox
Somerset, Kentucky

ACIM and Paradise Lost

Paradise Lost

Grieving the loss of paradise

How does the divine spark of infinite wisdom communicate with earthbound captives? How can words hope to compete against the endless distractions of creature comforts and desires? Poets, sages, prophets, madmen, and salesmen alike stand on the shore, shouting their messages at the passing boats. A few succeed by becoming enduring classics. Among them are the Book of Genesis,  the Gospels, Milton's Paradise Lost, and the contemporary A Course in Miracles. Each, in its own style, uses mythology and metaphor to poetically explore a common theme: humanity’s perceived separation from God.

Literal truth alone often fails to penetrate a mind entranced by appearances. Myth and metaphor act as bridges, pointing beyond themselves to realities the senses cannot grasp. Rhythm and rhyme match breath or heartbeat to enter a sleeping mind without arousing resistance. Through different languages of symbol and story, these works attempt to remind us of what we have not truly lost.

John Milton and Genesis

Adam and Eve's expulsion from Eden, roughly based upon the Bible's Genesis story, forms one part of John Milton's 1667 epic poem "Paradise Lost". Another parallel storyline in Milton's work is that of Lucifer's rebellion against God. Although the story of Lucifer is not based upon the Bible at all, it is a story that is deeply rooted in Western cultural beliefs.

The story of Lucifer in "Paradise Lost" follows the aftermath of Lucifer's war in heaven, seeking to overthrow God. It begins after Satan and the other rebel angels have been defeated and cast into Hell.

Lucifer employs his skill to organize his followers. Lucifer nominates himself to subvert the newly created Earth, and he braves the dangers of the Abyss alone in his journey to Eden.

The story of Adam and Eve's temptation and fall is a domestic saga. Adam and Eve are presented for the first time in Christian literature as having a functional relationship before the fall, while they were still without sin. They each have passions and distinct personalities in Milton's telling.  They are presented as real people.

Lucifer successfully tempts Eve by preying on her vanity and tricking her with sly words. Adam, seeing Eve has sinned, knowingly commits the same sin. He declares to Eve that since she was made from his flesh, they are bound to one another so that if she dies, he must also die. In this manner, Milton portrays Adam as a heroic figure but also as a deeper sinner than Eve since he knows that what he's doing is wrong, and he does it anyway.

After eating the forbidden fruit, Adam and Eve have lustful sex in Milton's poem. This preserved the popular, if not strictly doctrinal, position that it is sex itself that is the original sin. At first, Adam is convinced that Eve was right in thinking that eating the fruit would be beneficial. However, they soon fall asleep, have terrible nightmares, and after they awake, they experience guilt and shame for the first time. Realizing that they have committed a terrible act against God, they engage in mutual recrimination. Adam and Eve try to shift the blame onto the other.

"Those who think that they are sin must die for what they think they are." A Course in Miracles

Eve's pleas to Adam reconcile them somewhat. Her encouragement enables them to approach God, to "bow and sue for grace with suppliant knee," and to receive grace from God. Nevertheless, they are cast out of Eden, and the archangel Michael says that Adam may find "A paradise within thee, happier far." They now have a more distant relationship with God, and a flaming sword bars the way back to paradise.

Lucifer is the symbol of man and the ego

It is easy to see the similarity between Lucifer's expulsion from the paradise of Heaven and Adam & Eve's expulsion from the paradise of Eden.  Each rebelled against God, and each were punished by God, as is commonly believed.  A Course in Miracles recognizes this parallel. "After all, Lucifer fell, but he was still an angel. He is thus the symbol for man," the Course (urtext) states.  Similarly, God's children rebelled and fell, but they were still God's children. Lucifer's story epitomizes the Course's description of the ego.

One can characterize the entire melodrama as a transaction among egos, useful from beginning to end to illustrate Course teachings.  It is even possible to analyse Lucifer's behavior in terms of the Elisabeth Kübler-Ross model for the five stages of grief.

Although originally developed from observation of terminally ill hospital patients in her 1969 book, On Death and Dying, it has been applied to the grief associated with any loss. But the statement,"Lucifer literally projected himself from heaven," from the Course urtext is a reminder that Lucifer's exile from Heaven was self-imposed.

The first stage of grief is denial.

"Listening to the ego’s voice means that you believe it is possible to attack God." - A Course in Miracles

Lucifer's denial was the denial of truth, the denial of sanity, and the denial of his own identity.  He forgot it is impossible or not advantageous to attack God, the source and sustainer of his own being. Satan's desire to rebel against his creator stems from his unwillingness to accept the fact that he is a created being and that he is not self-sufficient, which is rooted in his extreme pride.

"The ego believes that all functions belong to it, even though it has no idea what they are. This is more than mere confusion. It is a particularly dangerous combination of grandiosity and confusion, which makes it likely that the ego will attack anyone and anything for no apparent reason. This is exactly what the ego does. It is totally unpredictable in its responses because it has no idea of what it perceives." - A Course in Miracles

There is no war against God, and there never was.

"Do you not realize a war against yourself would be a war on God? Is victory conceivable? And if it were, is this a victory that you would want? The death of God,if it were possible, would be your death. Is this a victory? The ego always marches to defeat, because it thinks that triumph over you is possible. And God thinks otherwise. This is no war. Only the mad belief the Will of God can be attacked and overthrown. You may identify with this belief, but it will never be more than madness. And fear will reign in madness, and will seem to have replaced love there. This is the conflict’s purpose. And to those who think that it is possible, the means seem real." - A Course in Miracles

The second stage of grief is anger.

Clearly, this is the stage where we first find Lucifer in Milton's tale. He is angry at God for his imagined punishment.  "It is the ego’s fundamental doctrine that, what you do to others, you have escaped."  This is why he conspires to seduce Eve into disobedience and rebellion, so that she and Adam will also suffer the same fate of exile from paradise.  Lucifer's survival depended on his belief that he was exempt from his own evil intentions.  We also see Adam and Eve angry with each other after the forbidden fruit was eaten.

The third stage of grief is bargaining.

After eating the forbidden fruit and remembering the consequences for that disobedience,  Adam and Eve both approach God, to "bow and sue for grace with suppliant knee," and to ask pardon from God, in Milton's version.  It is a form of bargaining.  In Genesis, Adam and Eve "knew that they were naked; and they sewed fig leaves together, and made themselves aprons," is another form of bargaining.

The fourth stage of grief is depression.

In Paradise Lost, Adam goes on a vision journey with an angel where he witnesses the errors of man and the Great Flood, and is saddened by the sin that they have released through the consumption of the forbidden fruit.

The fifth stage of grief is acceptance.

From one perspective, acceptance means acknowledging that the exile from paradise never truly occurred. The separation from God, so vividly portrayed in Milton’s epic and so deeply mourned by humanity, was never real. It existed only as a mistaken belief, a tragic misunderstanding of our unchangeable relationship with our Source. According to A Course in Miracles, "the separation is merely a faulty formulation of reality, with no effect at all." In this light, acceptance is not resignation to loss, but the joyful realization that paradise remains within, untouched by dreams of guilt and exile.

Thus, Paradise Lost can be seen not merely as a record of divine punishment but as a profound allegory of the ego’s fall into grief and despair. Lucifer’s rebellion, Adam and Eve’s disobedience, and the subsequent sorrow are all reflections of the mind's mistaken belief that it could separate from love. The stages of grief chart the ego’s journey through denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and, finally, acceptance — not acceptance of real loss, but the healing acceptance that loss itself was an illusion.

Grieving the loss of paradise is, at its heart, grieving the belief that paradise could be lost. But in truth, the gates of Eden have never been barred against us; we barred them against ourselves. "A paradise within thee, happier far," Milton wrote, echoing a deeper truth: the way back to peace lies not in external restoration, but in the quiet, inner remembrance of what was never truly lost.

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Tom Fox
Somerset, Kentucky

ACIM and the worship of God

I keep hearing chatter that A Course in Miracles does not promote the worship of God. And then I read the book and laugh.

"I thank You, Father, for the purity of Your most holy Son"

"I thank you, Father, knowing you will come to close each little gap that lies between the broken pieces of Your holy Son. Your holiness, complete and perfect, lies in every one of them."

"I thank you, Father, for your perfect Son, And in his glory will I see my own."

"We thank You, Father, that we cannot lose the memory of You and of Your Love. We recognize our safety and give thanks for all the gifts You have bestowed on us, for all the loving help we have received, for Your eternal patience, and the Word which You have given us that we are saved."

"We thank You, Father, for the light that shines forever in us. And we honor it because You share it with us. We are one, united in this light, and one with You, at peace with all creation and ourselves."

"We thank You, Father, for Your guarantee of only happy outcomes in the end. Help us not interfere and so delay the happy endings You have promised us for every problem that we can perceive, for every trial we think we still must meet."

"I thank You, Father, for the many gifts that come to me today and every day from every Son of God. My brothers are unlimited in all their gifts to me. Now may I offer them my thankfulness that gratitude to them may lead me on to my Creator and His memory"

"I thank You, Father, for Your plan to save me from the hell I made. It is not real. And You have given me the means to prove its unreality to me. The key is in my hand, and I have reached the door beyond which lies the end of dreams. I stand before the gate of Heaven, wondering if I should enter in and be at home. Let me not wait again today. Let me forgive all things, and let creation be as You would have it be and as it is. Let me remember that I am Your Son, and opening the door at last, forget illusions in the blazing light of truth, as memory of You returns to me."

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Tom Fox
Somerset, Kentucky

Morality and A Course In Miracles

Morality and A Course In Miracles

Questions

1. Although Jesus in the Gospels speaks of self-righteousness and Jesus in A Course In Miracles speaks of fear, none of the theories or traditions of morality seem to address these issues. Modern social science has suggested, with some degree of validity, that fear in combination with self-righteousness is a predictor of violent aggressive behavior. Those who view themselves as holy are more likely to do unholy deeds simply because they consider themselves to be holy. As an extreme example, Christopher Scarver beat Jeffrey Dahlmer and another inmate to death with a metal bar while the three were on a prison work detail together. Scarver said that God told him to do it. How do fear and self-righteousness fit into a comprehensive framework of morality?

2. The morality of morality (meta morality) - How do issues of authority and control (authorship?) relate to moral traditions and systems? How are moral systems used to maintain or reform the status quo when one level of moral development conflicts with another? For example, when the post-conventional morality of social justice and civil disobedience clashes with the conventional morality of law and order? Or when cultural worlds collide?

3. Sex is only briefly discussed in A Course In Miracles (urtext). Marriage and gender roles are not discussed at all, as such. Both sex and marriage are a large part of human life and they play a prominent part in many moral systems (both conventional secular and religious). Can ACIM’s stance on “special relationships” be viewed as an attack on the religious or secular institution of marriage?

Preface

I began the week with the belief that A Course In Miracles (ACIM) lacked any substantial discussion of morality or right conduct in the world. This, it seems, has been the consensus of opinion among both students and teachers of ACIM for the last forty-five years.

After researching the question of moral philosophy and ethics in general, I soon realized that A Course In Miracles is packed full of morality and ethics, from beginning to end, but that I had been blind to it . . . until I looked. When I focused on the issue, I discovered I had only a child's understanding of what morality and ethical persuasion looked like.

The morality of ACIM is a bigger project than I first imagined it would be. These notes are from a few days of effort.

Introduction

The idea of morality relates to the principles that distinguish between good and bad behavior [appropriate and inappropriate behavior]. A moral system is  a particular collection of values, a set of rules or a way of thinking in relation to right conduct. Different forms of morality focus upon different aspects. The most basic type of morality involves controlling behavior, without regard for consequences or reasons motivating the behavior. Some forms of morality emphasize motivation rather than outcomes, and others look only to consequences.

Theory of Moral Development

Lawrence Kohlberg's  theory of moral development holds that the nature of moral reasoning that forms the basis for ethical behavior, has six developmental stages. His research method used storytelling techniques to tell people stories involving moral dilemmas.  In each case, he presented a choice to be considered, for example, between the rights of some authority and the needs of some deserving individual who is being unfairly treated.

By studying the answers from children of different ages to these questions, Kohlberg hoped to discover how moral reasoning changed as people grew older. The sample comprised 72 Chicago boys aged 10–16 years, 58 of whom were followed up at three-yearly intervals for 20 years. His methodology is generally seen today as being flawed by limiting his study to boys.

Kohlberg identified six levels of moral development divided into three basic categories: pre-conventional, conventional, and post-conventional. The youngest children had not yet developed any internal moral compass and they simply behaved as they were instructed by the adults in their lives. As the children matured they tended to become familiar with the social and legal norms of their place in society, and their behavior was conforming to what those around them expected. At the level of conventional morality, authority is internalized but not questioned, and reasoning is based on the norms of the group to which the person belongs.

According to Kohlberg, only a small percentage of people progress to post-conventional morality. Individual judgment is derived from self-chosen principles, and moral decisions are based on individual rights, justice, and rationality.

Kohlberg believed that conventional moral thinking is as far as most people get. That is to say, most people take their moral views from those around them and only a minority think through ethical principles for themselves.

Theories of morality

1. What religion or tradition tells you (Authoritarian)

2. What an individual feels is right or wrong in any situation. (Moral Subjectivism)

3. What society generally agrees is right or wrong. (Cultural Relativism or Legalism)

4. What results in the most benefit to the individual. (Ethical Egoism or Hedonism)

5. What result benefits society as a whole the most (Altruistic Utilitarianism)

6. Rational virtuous character (Phronesis - Classic Greek Idealism)

7. Emotions like love and sympathy lead to relationships of caring (Feminist Ethical Morality)

8. Theory of Compassionate Action (Zen master Thich Nhat Ha)

[9. Morality constitutes “the right thing to do” depending on our circumstances, not some code of conduct, a set of rules that must be upheld. (Vajrayana Buddhism] 

10. Morality of voluntary agreements and obligations. Promise Keepers. Conventional / secular

11. Arete (Greek: ἀρετή), in its basic sense, means "excellence of any kind". The term may also mean "moral virtue". In its earliest appearance in Greek, this notion of excellence was ultimately bound up with the notion of the fulfillment of purpose or function: the act of living up to one's full potential.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Arete

The Golden Rule

This is one of the more famous quotes from ACIM:

“You must change your mind, not your behavior.” ACIM Text T-2.VI.3.4

But, the Course also states:

"The Golden Rule asks you to behave toward others as you would have them behave toward you. This means that the perception of both must be accurate. The Golden Rule is the rule for appropriate behavior. You cannot behave appropriately unless you perceive correctly."  ACIM Text TT-1.III.6.2

The Golden Rule is the principle of treating others as you want to be treated. It is a maxim that is found in most religions and cultures. It can be considered an ethic of reciprocity in some religions, although other religions treat it differently. The maxim may appear as a positive or negative injunction governing conduct:

a. Treat others as you would like others to treat you (positive or directive form)

b. Do not treat others in ways that you would not like to be treated (negative or prohibitive form)

c. What you wish upon others, you wish upon yourself (empathic or responsive form)

In the Far East the idea dates at least to the early Confucian times (551–479 BC). This concept appears prominently in Buddhism, Christianity, Hinduism, Judaism, Taoism, Zoroastrianism, and the rest of the world's major religions. The Golden Rule was first documented in the Code of Hummurabi in ancient Babylon (1770 BC).

 A Course In Miracles clearly endorses a basic and nearly universal moral guidance. ACIM is in line with every mainstream religious tradition.

The Morality of Love, Forgiveness, Miracles, and Being Helpful

One main focus of A Course In Miracles are the instructions for Miracle Workers. A miracle, according to the Course, is any interpersonal expression of love. There are no big or small miracles, and a miraculous expression of love could be nothing more than a smile.

"Perhaps the seeming strangers in the elevator will smile to one another, perhaps the adult will not scold the child for bumping into him; perhaps the students will become friends. Even at the level of the most casual encounter, it is possible for two people to lose sight of separate interests, if only for a moment. That moment will be enough. Salvation has come."

ACIM Manual for Teachers M-3.2.5

A few of the many principles relating to miracles in ACIM:

"Miracles are healing because they supply a lack; they are performed by those who temporarily have more for those who temporarily have less."

"Through prayer love is received, and through miracles love is expressed."

"Miracles are teaching devices for demonstrating it is more blessed to give than to receive. They simultaneously increase the strength of the giver and supply strength to the receiver."

"A miracle is a service. It is the maximal service you can render to another. It is a way of loving your neighbor as yourself. You recognize your own and your neighbor's worth simultaneously.'

"Miracles are a kind of exchange. Like all expressions of love, which are always miraculous in the true sense, the exchange reverses the physical laws. They bring more love both to the giver <and> the receiver."

"Miracles reawaken the awareness that the spirit, not the body, is the altar of truth. 2 This is the recognition that leads to the healing power of the miracle."

"Miracles are natural signs of forgiveness. Through miracles you accept God's forgiveness by extending it to others."

Miracle Workers Prayer

I am here only to be truly helpful.

I am here to represent Him Who sent me.

I do not have to worry about what to say or what to do, because He Who sent me will direct me.

I am content to be wherever He wishes, knowing He goes there with me.

I will be healed as I let Him teach me to heal.

"The truly helpful are God's miracle workers, whom I [Jesus] direct until we are all united in the joy of the Kingdom." ACIM Text T-4.VII.8.7

The Morality of Jesus and Christianity

“I [Jesus] am your model for decision. By deciding for God I showed you that this decision can be made, and that you can make it.” ACIM Text T-5.II.9.6-7

“For this alone I need; that you will hear the words I speak, and give them to the world.  You are my voice, my eyes, my feet, my hands through which I save the world” (W-pI.rV.in.9:2-3).

The Seven Cardinal Sins

The seven deadly sins, also known as the capital vices, or cardinal sins, is a grouping and classification of vices within Christian teachings, although it does not appear explicitly in the Bible. Behaviors or habits are classified under this category if they directly give birth to other immoralities. According to the standard list, they are:

1. Pride

2. Greed

3. Lust

4. Envy

5. Gluttony

6. Wrath (Anger)

“You have heard that it was said to the people long ago, ‘You shall not murder, and anyone who murders will be subject to judgment.’ But I tell you that anyone who is angry with a brother or sister will be subject to judgment.” Matthew 5:21

“Anger is never justified.” ACIM Text T-30.VI.1.1

“If you respond with anger, you must be equating yourself with the destructible, and are therefore regarding yourself insanely.” ACIM Text T-6.I.4.7

7. Sloth

The Seven Cardinal Virtues

1. Prudence

2. Justice

3. Temperance

4. Courage (or fortitude)

5. Faith

6. Hope

7. Charity

The Ten Commandments

1. You shall have no other gods before me.

In this world you can become a spotless mirror, in which the Holiness of your Creator shines forth from you to all around you. You can reflect Heaven here. Yet no reflections of the images of other gods must dim the mirror that would hold God's reflection in it. Earth can reflect Heaven or hell; God or the ego.

ACIM Text T-14.IX.5. 1

2. No graven images or likenesses.

God is no image, and His creations, as part of Him, hold Him in them in truth. They do not merely reflect truth, for they are truth. T-14.IX.8.6

3. You shall not take the name of the Lord your God in vain .

Many are afraid of blasphemy, but they do not understand what it means. They do not realize that to deny God is to deny their own Identity, and in this sense the wages of sin is death.  ACIM Text T-10.V.1.4

4. Remember the sabbath day.

This day is God's. It is my gift to Him.

I will not lead my life alone today. I do not understand the world, and so to try to lead my life alone must be but foolishness. But there is One Who knows all that is best for me. And He is glad to make no choices for me but the ones that lead to God. I give this day to Him, for I would not delay my coming home, and it is He Who knows the way to God.

And so we give today to You. We come with wholly open minds. We do not ask for anything that we may think we want. Give us what You would have received by us. You know all our desires and our wants. And You will give us everything we need in helping us to find the way to You.

ACIM Workbook Lesson 242

5. Honor thy father and thy mother.

honor is the natural greeting of the truly loved to others who are like

them. T-3.I.6.3

6. Thou shalt not kill.

M-27.7. Teacher of God, your one assignment could be stated thus: Accept no compromise

in which death plays a part. 2 Do not believe in cruelty, nor let attack conceal the

truth from you.

7. Thou shalt not commit adultery.

The body does appear to be the symbol of sin while you believe that it can get you what you want. While you believe that it can give you pleasure, you will also believe that it can bring you pain. To think you could be satisfied and happy with so little is to hurt yourself, T-19.IV.A.17.10

8. Thou shalt not steal

"It [the ego] literally believes that every time it deprives someone of something, it has increased." ACIM Text T-7.V.9.8

“The inheritance of the Kingdom is the right of God's Son, given him in his creation. Do not try to steal it from him, or you will ask for guilt and will experience it. Protect his purity from every thought that would steal it away and keep it from his sight.”  ACIM Text T-14.V.4.1

9. Thou shalt not bear false witness against thy neighbor

T-5.VI.10. You need not fear the Higher Court will condemn you. 2 It will merely

dismiss the case against you. 3 There can be no case against a child of God, and every witness

to guilt in God's creations is bearing false witness to God Himself. 4

10. Thou shalt not covet

“ . . . . reviewing some of the external places where you have looked for salvation in the past;--in other people, in possessions, in various situations and events, and in self-concepts that you sought to make real. Recognize that it is not there, and tell yourself:  My salvation cannot come from any of these things.” W-pI.70.7.5

Morality of Teachers of God

Classic Greek Idealism

The thinking about morality and ethics which originated with Plato and Aristotle focused upon excellence of character. This is to say that morality is fundamentally related to what kind of persons we are. Thus, virtuous behavior is what a virtuous person does. It may seem circular to express it this way, but the various specific virtues are identified in order to establish the identity of the character In the abstract, an honest man tends to consistently speak honestly, and  by so doing in actual practice is what establishes an identity as an honest man., for whom honest speech is a character habit.

In the ancient world, courage, moderation, and justice were prime species of moral virtue.

A virtue is a settled disposition to act in a certain way.  Gentleness, for instance, is the settled disposition to act so that physical affront is out of the question and psychological shock or insult is minimized. Gentleness includes both  words and deeds. This settled disposition includes a practical knowledge about how to be gentle in every situation, and that each is treated according to their individual sensitivity. It also includes a strong positive attitude toward learning how each individual is likely to respond to any apparent lack of civility. Gentle people, then, are not ones who occasionally act gently, or even who regularly act gently but who do so out of some other motive; rather they are people who reliably act that way because they place a high intrinsic value on manifesting gentleness, and they are good at it. Mr. Rogers is prime example of a genuinely gentle character.

ACIM - Characteristics of God's Teachers

1. Trust

2. Honesty

3. Tolerance

4. Gentleness

Harm is impossible for God's teachers. They can neither harm nor be harmed. Harm is the outcome of judgment. It is the dishonest act that follows a dishonest thought. It is a verdict of guilt upon a brother, and therefore on oneself. It is the end of peace and the denial of learning. It demonstrates the absence of God's curriculum, and its replacement by insanity. No teacher of God but must learn,--and fairly early in his training,--that harmfulness completely obliterates his function from his awareness. It will make him confused, fearful, angry and suspicious. It will make the Holy Spirit's lessons impossible to learn. Nor can God's Teacher be heard at all, except by those who realize that harm can actually achieve nothing. 12 No gain can come of it.

Therefore, God's teachers are wholly gentle. They need the strength of gentleness, for it is in this that the function of salvation becomes easy. To those who would do harm, it is impossible. To those to whom harm has no meaning, it is merely natural. What choice but this has meaning to the sane? Who chooses hell when he perceives a way to Heaven? And who would choose the weakness that must come from harm in place of the unfailing, all-encompassing and limitless strength of gentleness? The might of God's teachers lies in their gentleness, for they have understood their evil thoughts came neither from God's Son nor his Creator. Thus did they join their thoughts with Him Who is their Source. And so their will, which always was His Own, is free to be itself. M-4.IV.1.

5. Joy

6. Defenselessness

7. Generosity

8. Patience

9. Faithfulness

10. Open-Mindedness

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Random ACIM references and comments

Fear is always a sign of strain, arising whenever what you want conflicts with what you do. This situation arises in two ways: First, you can choose to do conflicting things, either simultaneously or successively. This produces conflicted behavior, which is intolerable to you because the part of the mind that wants to do something else is outraged. Second, you can behave as you think you should, but without entirely wanting to do so. This produces consistent behavior, but entails great strain. In both cases, the mind and the behavior are out of accord, resulting in a situation in which you are doing what you do not wholly want to do. This arouses a sense of coercion that usually produces rage, and projection is likely to follow. Whenever there is fear, it is because you have not made up your mind. Your mind is therefore split, and your behavior inevitably becomes erratic. Correcting at the behavioral level can shift the error from the first to the second type, but will not obliterate the fear. T-2.VI.5.1

 It is possible to reach a state in which you bring your mind under my guidance without conscious effort, but this implies a willingness that you have not developed as yet. T-2.VI.6.1

Yet we have learned that behavior is not the level for either teaching or learning, since you can act in accordance with what you do not believe. To do this, however, will weaken you as a teacher and a learner because, as has been repeatedly emphasized, you teach what you <do> believe. An inconsistent lesson will be poorly taught and poorly learned. T-7.V.2.4 .4-6

I do not perceive my own best interests. In no situation that arises do you realize the outcome that would make you happy. Therefore, you have no guide to appropriate action and no way of judging the result. W-pI.24.1.1-2

As the teacher of God advances in his training, he learns one lesson with increasing thoroughness. He does not make his own decisions; he asks his Teacher for His answer, and it is this he follows as his guide for action. This becomes easier and easier, as the teacher of God learns to give up his own judgment. M-9.2.1-3

Judgment, like other devices by which the world of illusions is maintained, is totally misunderstood by the world. It is actually confused with wisdom, and substitutes for truth. As the world uses the term, an individual is capable of "good" and "bad" judgment, and his education aims at strengthening the former and minimizing the latter. There is, however, considerable confusion about what these categories mean. What is "good" judgment to one is "bad" judgment to another. Further, even the same person classifies the same action as showing "good" judgment at one time and "bad" judgment at another time.  Nor can any consistent criteria for determining what these categories are be really taught. M-10.1.1-7

RE: Marriage and special relationships - Weber-Caspers Martin Not in my opinion, Tom Fox. Early in the text we are told "planning ahead is good advice" in areas in which 'we have taken responsibility'. A marriage is constituted by the commitment of two or more people taking responsibility, as in taking care of each other. I also think that mentioning parents and their responsibilities for children as well as the teaching on a special savior for everyone hint in that direction. I do recall that nowhere is a special relationship of any kind just brushed off as merely inappropriate. In the end, it is the raw material for the holy relationship under the workings of the atonement. ...."The Love of God must for a while be communicated from one body to another" (paraphr? Txt). Possessivenes and jealousy are traits of the ego's version of love and partnership, which is mostly to barter, idolize and exclude, IMO.

[some more relevant quotations:

Behavior is response, so that the question “response to what?”

becomes crucial. Since stimuli are identified through perception,

you first perceive the stimulus and then behave accordingly. It

follows, then, that:

63 As ye perceive,

So shall ye behave.

64 The Golden Rule asks you to behave toward others as you

would have them behave toward you. This means that the perception

of both must be accurate. The Golden Rule is the rule for

appropriate behavior. You cannot behave appropriately unless you

perceive accurately, because appropriate behavior depends on lack

of level confusion. The presence of level confusion always results

in variable reality testing and therefore in variability in behavioral

appropriateness. Since you and your neighbor are equal members

of the same family, as you perceive both, so you will behave toward

both. The way to perceive for Golden Rule behavior is to look out

from the perception of your own holiness and perceive the holiness

of others.

1.70 All shallow roots must be uprooted

because they are not deep enough to sustain you. The illusion that

shallow roots can be deepened and thus made to hold is one of the

distortions on which the reversal of the Golden Rule rests. As these

false underpinnings are given up, the equilibrium is temporarily experienced

as unstable. However, the fact is that nothing is less stable

than an orientation that is upside down. Nor can anything which

holds it that way be really conducive to greater stability.

2.25 Denial should be directed only to error, and projection should

be reserved only for truth. You should truly give as you have truly

received. The Golden Rule can work effectively only on this basis.

T 1 B 36f. Consider the Golden Rule again. You are asked to behave

toward others as you would have them behave toward you.57 This

means that the perception of both must be accurate, since the Golden

Rule is the Order for appropriate behavior. You can’t behave appropriately

unless you perceive accurately, because appropriate behavior

DEPENDS on lack of level confusion. The presence of level confusion

ALWAYS results in variable reality testing, and hence variability in

behavioral appropriateness.

T 1 B 36h. Since you and your neighbor are equal members of the

same family, as you perceive both, so will you behave toward both.

The way to perceive for Golden Rule behavior is to look out from the

perception of your own holiness and perceive the holiness of others.

GOLDEN RULE in 14 Traditions of the world (scripture)

0. The Global Course (ACIM)

When you meet anyone,

remember it is a holy encounter.

As you see him, you will see yourself.

Never forget this, for in him you will find yourself

or lose sight of yourself.

The Course, urtext, par 1376.

1. Zoroastrianism

Do not do unto others whatever

is injurious to yourself.

Shayast-na-Shayast 13.29

2. Jainism

One should treat all creatures in the world

as one would like to be treated.

Mahavira, Sutrakritanga

3. Buddhism

Treat not others in ways

that you yourself would find hurtful.

Udana-Varga 5:18

4. Judaism

What is hateful to you, do not do to your neighbor.

This is the whole Torah; all the rest is commentary.

Hillel, Talmud, Shabbat 31a

5. Christianity

In everything, do to others

as you would have them do to you;

for this is the law and the prophets.

Jesus, Matthew 7:12

6. Sikhism

I am a stranger to no one;

and no one is a stranger to me.

Indeed, I am a friend to all.

Guru Grant Sahib, pg.1299

7. Confucianism

One word which sums up the

basis of all good conduct...

loving kindness.

Do not do to others

what you do not want

done to yourself.

Confucius, Analects 15.23

8. Baha'i Faith

Lay not on any soul a load that you

would not wish to be laid upon you,

and desire not for anyone the things

you would not desire for yourself.

Balra 'u' llah, Gleanings

9. Unitarianism

We affirm and promote respect

for the interdependent web of all existence

of which we are a part.

Unitarian principle

10. Hinduism

This is the sum of duty:

do not do to others what would cause

pain if done to you.

Mahabharata 5:1517

11. Islam

Not one of you truly believes

until you wish for others

what you wish for yourself.

The Prophet Mohammed, Hadith

12. Taoism

Regard your neighbor's gain

as your own gain, and your neighbor's loss

as your own loss.

Tái Shang Kan Ying Píen, 213-218

13. Native Spirituality

We are as much alive

as we keep the earth alive.

Chief Dan George

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Tom Fox
Somerset, Kentucky